Many people in life would like to gain more confidence or to increase their self esteem. In this article, I give free tips on how to do this. I myself have managed to change my whole life by implementing the advice given. I hope it also proves beneficial for you.
I am Stephen Hill from England. I had many issues as I grew up from a child, through the teenage years, and finally to adulthood which had a damaging affect on my confidence levels. These included:
A bald patch on my head
A speech impediment known as a stutter
A weight problem, I was basically too fat
I am quite short at five foot four
Certain people I met would be quite nasty and would try to make fun of me. They would succeed as I would be very hurt from their comments, even though I tried to never show it.
These people were making my life a misery and by the age of twenty-two I had had enough. I decided I needed a big change in attitude and started to read books about life and about positive thinking etc.
These were the things I had to take on board:
It is not important what other people think of you, it is what you think that counts
You need to start to like yourself
There are various things about your person, you do not like but which you can not change. You therefore have to start accepting these things and realising that maybe there are other people in life who are more unfortunate than you.
You need to have respect for yourself
Do not accept second best in life
Be happy
I tried hard to implement this advice and even though it was not easy to change, I knew I had to. I basically live life to the full now and try not to worry about anything trivial.
Stephen Hill has a number of websites including:
stuttering therapy
lasik laser treatment
lasik surgery
Every single day I surf through about a dozen sites, looking for
interesting articles and message board posts. I do this for many
reasons: for my job, which requires that I stay up-to-date on
current technologies, and for my hobby, which allows me to write
articles about the internet and the web.
A big portion of my daily routine involves visiting forums
related to all facets of the internet. These forums often have
some incredible information not readily available anywhere else;
the best of these (WebMasterWorld, JavaScript City, Spider Foods,
WebDev Forums, Lisa Says it all and the Web Site Abstraction
Forum) are tightly monitored and are heavily trafficked by
knowledgeable people.
I find them very useful not just for ideas, but to occasionally
post something of interest to others. You know, that’s something
that I truly enjoy. Stumbling across a post which asks a question,
responding and finding out that I really did help someone solve
an issue. There are few better feelings than that.
Anyway, today I was looking through some posts on these boards
and I noticed a very common concern and theme. Virtually every
webmaster on the boards is concerned above all else with one
thing: getting traffic to their site. And to get traffic
virtually all of those same webmasters was convinced they have
to get high rankings in the search engines.
I’d seen this before, of course, but today I noticed something
that actually made me angry. I realized that the search engines,
especially the larger ones, are causing people to self-censor
their own sites.
One lady stated she had a painfully built set of links for
quilt sites. She believed it was the most complete set of quilt
links on the internet, and seemed quite proud. However, she was
disturbed and even was considering removing the links because it
might hurt her rankings in Google.
I continued looking over the posts on that and other forums and
found similar posts scattered throughout. One person was afraid
because he included pages of content not related to the theme of
his site. Would Google drop his ranking and thus cut his income?
Yet he really wanted to include those pages … but felt he had
to remove them because of this search engine.
You see, what’s happening is Google and other search engines have
to work very hard to create very intelligent robots to scan the
web for sites. Until recently, these robots considered each and
every page as a separate entity. Now, however, a change is
occurring. Google is attempting to group pages together into
sites, and then judge all of the pages as a group. The
implication of this is apparently sites which are “tightly
themed” will be positioned higher in the results pages than
those that are not.
I guess the theory is that a tightly themed site is somehow
better than a site which has lots of information about many
different subject.
Google also ranks pages (and now perhaps entire sites) based
upon the number and quality of sites that link back. The thought
behind this is that if a site is linked to by other quality
sites (sites related to the theme), then that site is somehow
better than other sites and deserves to rank higher.
So what’s seems to be happening is many webmasters are very,
very concerned about every move they make. Every change to their
site is measured against the question, “what will Google or
Altavista or whatever think of this change?” Will making that
change drop their rankings? Will it get them removed from the
engine? Will the Earth come to an end simply because a link to a
site with different content is included?
Other questions I have seen include: will using Flash drop me
out of the engines? Should I use tables or will that hurt my
page ranking? If “low quality” sites link to mine, will Google
get annoyed and kick me to the second page?
This is, in my opinion, utterly and completely ridiculous. The
purpose of the web and the internet is communication. People
write articles, create graphics and multimedia and place them on
the internet because they have a story to tell or some
information to impart.
Of course it is important to promote your site, because part of
communication is finding someone to communicate with. However,
there are many, many ways to promote a web site. There are as
many ways and places to promote as their are stars in the sky or
electrons on a wire. Just use your creativity and your brain, and
you will figure out how to get people to visit your creation,
without selling your soul to a search engine.
One of my objections is the idea of “theming” a web site. That
is not the way that the web is intended to work and it is not in
the interest of surfers. When I search on a keyword, I want to
find the best pages that I can find. If someone wrote a page
about their cat but placed it on their site about quilts, then I
still might want to see it. In fact, it’s possible that this one
page has better information than a site devoted entirely to cats.
I have a great example of a site which is one of the best on the
internet by a good man named James Huggins. I’d bet that Google
wouldn’t appreciate this site very much because it would have a
very difficult time figuring out the theme. Yet it is by far one
of the most entertaining and informative sites on the entire web
(in my opinion, of course).
http://www.jamesshuggins.com/
A major problem with the idea of basing the ranking of a site
on it’s popularity is that new or smaller sites tend to drop way
down the list, even though they are often much better than sites
higher on the list. It simply is not true that a site which has
lots of incoming “quality” links is any better than those sites
which do not have as many of them.
Websites are very personal creations, and they should reflect
the unique viewpoints, opinions and background of the authors,
artists and creative talent. There is no need to make every site
on the web look or feel the same; There is certainly no need to
force every site to fit a set of rules in order to be found by
other people.
My advice is to create a web site in which you can be proud. Use
all of the tools and skills that you have, and use whatever
techniques you enjoy. At the same time, explore ALL of the
methods of site promotion, including search engines. But don’t
place too much weight on the engines - they change constantly
and they are very fickle. You might sell your soul to get a high
ranking one day only to find out the next morning that you are
gone entirely.
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(December 11, 2005, Orange, NJ) On May 4, 2005, Yasmeen celebrated her 39th birthday! She’s now ready to share her challenges surrounding her childhood, adulthood, the aftermath of 9/11 as a Muslim woman, and passion to run a business, and relationships maintained throughout her life. This process for Yasmeen began as she embarks on composing her thoughts on raising her son alone after an eight-year marriage and the divorce. A bit of what you’ll read about from her memoirs is how an African-American, little girl, born and raised in Newark, New Jersey in 1966 made it while later ending up in Cary, North Carolina in 2001 to raise her now 16-year old son as a single parent. In addition to running and operating a home-based business, Yasmeen graduated from high school in 1984 and business school in 1985. She has plans to further her education towards a degree in psychology. She is a member of Coachville.com and International Coaching Federation (ICF). Yasmeen will embark on this journey with her family and friends. Yasmeen’s personal journals and friends will play a pivotal role in rekindling her memories of past and present events. Yasmeen’s goal is to have her manuscript typed, edited and ready for print by the end of 2006. After this huge task is completed, she plans to venture out to writing books geared towards women in entrepreneurship and other self-help books. Go to her website (http://www.thebrownstoneworkshop.bigstep.com) periodically to read up on how she’s progressing on her goals. The End
Present Contact Information: Yasmeen Abdur-Rahman Lifestyle Entrepreneur Coach Owner, The Brownstone Workshop 572 Nassau Street, 2nd Floor Orange, New Jersey 07050 Ph/fax: 973-673-5679 Mobile: 732-423-5177 Email: mailto:yasmeen033@aol.com Website: http://www.thebrownstoneworkshop.bigstep.com
Carp fishing is a rather rewarding past-time because carp are very smart and aren’t so easily persuaded to take the bait. However, with some guile, you can lure carp and trick them into being your latest catch. The following are just a few useful tips to help you when carp fishing:-
- Bring fishmeal boilies in the summer and autumn seasons, and try 50/50 mixtures or even bird food types of bait in the winter and spring seasons
- Apply contrasting sizes of pellets or particles in the spod mixture. This really “throws” the carp (confuses them), and gives you the selection to use distinct sizes of bait.
- If you are stressed about overfeeding the swim, then use breadcrumb groundbait with merely the attractants added, but without all the particle baits included. This draws in the carp without stuffing them.
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